I thought it was a simple answer. Finding balance must have a magic formula. And the more I’ve thought about it and researched it, the more I have realized there really is not one answer. Just google it…You will get hundreds of different answers on what the perfect balance is and how to achieve it.
Here’s the truth: you determine what the right balance is for you. I’ve been reading a lot of stuff on working v. staying home and other parenting related issues and here is what I have found – we all have different opinions on what should be done and how it should be done and we all like to tell others what the “right” way is to do it. We are all in different stages with our children, our marriages and our lives. We all have different children with different temperaments and likes and dislikes. So, guess what ladies? You are ALL right!
You determine how clean your house should be, what type of foods your kids should eat, where you will live, whether they go to public or private school, whether you nurse or give your babies formula, whether you work or stay home or some combination of the two, how fit you should be, how much time you spend with your children, how you discipline them and the list goes on and on. And while you may listen to different advice from friends, family and the internet, the bottom line is your situation is unique and only you can determine what is best for you, your children, your family and your life. So take the information you read and then listen to your heart.
I’m guilty of not following my heart to find MY balance and it has caused me so much unnecessary stress. Let’s face it, the one thing we all really want is for our kids to grow up in a loving happy home and for them (and us) to be happy, successful and healthy. Other than that, our worlds could be night and day, and that doesn’t mean any one person is better than the other.
When I first started this blog, I wanted to help moms everywhere achieve that perfect peaceful balance in their lives. I wrote for a while on different things, but was struggling because none of it seemed to really be what I was looking to say. I also felt that I was lacking that balance in my life – going through a divorce, trying to raise three kids, struggling financially, not exercising regularly or sleeping enough, and working a full time job while trying to pursue my passions. So I took a break to regroup. I’ve decided that I need to find my perfect balance and in doing so, I hope that I can help you find yours. So, from now on, this will be a journal of sorts, not for you to follow but to inspire you to ask the same questions in your life.
What is YOUR perfect balance? If today was a perfect day for you, how would it unfold (and I don’t mean spending the day on the beach with a drink in hand and butlers by your side with (insert hottie here)…I think we all have some sort of dream like that… a true fantasy… I mean, in living your life that you are meant to live and want to live, how would you spend your day? What would make you content, fulfilled? What would you work on? Who would you spend time with? What would you do for yourself? What would you eat? Where would you go? Start thinking about these things…because the older I get, the more I realize that we only have today to live our perfect day…we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Don’t let anyone or anything hold you back from creating that perfect day, every day!